The Glory of – Part 3 of 3

February 10th, 2009

Or a more eloquent way of saying the same thing:

Wives should manifest such a character as to be worthy of love. They
owe this to their husbands. They demand the confidence and affection of man;
and they should show that they are worthy of that confidence and affection.

It is not possible to love that which is unlovely, nor to force affection where it is
undeserved; and, as a wife expects that a husband will love her more than he
does any other earthly being, it is but right that she should evince such a spirit as
shall make that proper.

A wife may easily alienate the affections of her partner
in life. If she is irritable and fault-finding; if none of his ways please her; if she
takes no interest in his plans, and in what he does; if she forsakes her home
when she should be there, and seeks happiness abroad; or, if at home, she never
greets him with a smile; if she is wasteful of his earnings, and extravagant in her
habits, it will be impossible to prevent the effects of such a course of life on his
mind.

And when a wife perceives the slightest evidence of alienated affection in
her husband, she should inquire at once whether she has not given occasion for
it, and exhibited such a spirit as tended inevitably to produce such a result.

– Barnes

The Glory of – Part 2 of 3

January 5th, 2009

1 Corinthians 11:7 For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, forasmuch as he is the image and glory of God: but the woman is the glory of the man

We are the GLORY of our husbands. All that we are, do, and say reflects upon them. Think about that for a moment. Forget about making sure he is doing his “job” he has his own glory to reflect. Worry about your own job. How is your husband’s glory looking?

Pr 12:4 A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones.
Pr 19:14 House and riches are the inheritance of fathers: and a prudent wife is from the LORD.
Pr 9:13 A foolish woman [is] clamorous: [she is] simple, and knoweth nothing.
Pr 11:22 [As] a jewel of gold in a swine’s snout, [so is] a fair woman which is without discretion.
Pr 14:1 Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.
Pr 19:13 A foolish son [is] the calamity of his father: and the contentions of a wife [are] a continual dropping.
Pr 21:9 [It is] better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.
Pr 21:19 [It is] better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.

We have the power to make him ashamed. We have the power to tear down our homes. We can be foolish, clamorous, loud, simple, knowing nothing, and without discretion. Causing our husbands to want to live in a corner of housetop, or in the wilderness, rather than with us.

How many men do you know that do just that to get away from their nagging wife? How many women do you know that are contentious and a continual dropping that you’d love to get away from?

Proverbs 31:10-12 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
Proverbs 31:26-28 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.

Or we can be a crown to him. We can build up our homes. We can be a prudent wife from the LORD. A Proverbs 31 Woman. A virtuous woman worth more than rubies. One who has the trust of her husband’s heart. Who will do him good and not evil all her days. One who speaks with wisdom and kindness. Who looks to her own house. One with children that call her blessed. One who’s husband calls her blessed and praises her!

How many men do you know that do that? How many women do you know that are worthy of that?

How can we bring glory to our husbands?

Conversation: What we say about and in front of our husbands counts. Praise him to your friends. Don’t put him down and reveal his faults. Don’t slander him, even if it is true. Do and say things that build him up instead of tearing him down and putting a wedge between the two of you. Make your commitment to him and the marriage covenant obvious.

Organize: Your home, your time, your life. When you are organized about your home, meals, and lifestyle you waste less time in accomplishing goals. Spend your time wisely. Are you doing things that glorify your husband? Do they take time away from him? How does he feel about them? As you fulfill your responsibilities your husband is free to fill his. Give yourself the time and ability to save some energy just for him. Pray for him. Encourage him. Put him first! Yes, over your children, extended family, work, Ladies Bible Study and other obligations. Make your commitment to him and the marriage covenant obvious.

Discretion: When your husband sins, again don’t take it to your friends, tell him privately. In a submissive and gentle way. Don’t hold on to it only to pull it out again later and bash him over the head with it every time you disagree. Don’t air his laundry for all the world. Make your commitment to him and the marriage covenant obvious.

Remember just as God is glorified when man obeys Him, out  husbands are glorified when we obey them…

The Glory of – Part 1 of 3

December 6th, 2008

The phrase “The glory of” has caught my attention lately and got me to thinking.

1. In the end all things pass through man to bring glory to God.
2. We don’t have a lot of control over growing our own glory.

Proverbs 17:6 Children’s children are the crown of old men; and the glory of children are their fathers.

Children are born into the glory of their father’s reputation. Granted this isn’t that big of a deal these days with unwed/single mothers and all, but this used to mean something. That is why so many surnames mean “Son of” some progenitor’s name or what he did.

Proverbs 20:29 The glory of young men is their strength: and the beauty of old men is the gray head.

This one is interesting because you can do a lot to build your strength, but there are things that can steal that strength away from you. In the end that strength fades as we age.

Psalms 19:1 To the chief Musician, A Psalm of David. The heavens declare the glory of God; and the firmament sheweth his handywork.

There are a lot of verses talking about the glory of God.

1 Corinthians 11:7 For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, forasmuch as he is the image and glory of God: but the woman is the glory of the man

 Man is just one of them and woman is the glory of man. What awesome responsibilities this image represents.

1 Corinthians 11:15 But if a woman have long hair, it is a glory to her: for her hair is given her for a covering.
Our glory is our long hair.

And our glory is in our long hair…

Have ONE bag will travel

October 27th, 2008

We recently took a plane trip. Our son finally outgrew the booster car seat requirements so we’re traveling without having to bring along a car seat or rent one once at our destination. In addition some airlines are starting to charge for checked bags. So we figured it was time to give this “one bag” thing a try.

As we were each allowed one carry-on bag and one personal item that gave us a total of 6 bags and whatever we were wearing.

How did it work out?

We went right up to the self check-in. Didn’t have to wait in long lines or for someone behind the desk to check-in our bags. Got through the security lines easily and quickly. Our bags were easy to travel with in the airports between flights and store in the overhead bins on the planes.

When we landed on the other side we breezed right past baggage claim (no waiting for our bags, no lost bags, and no broken wheel at the last minute!) and right onto a bus to the rental car. (No lugging luggage to the bus stop, onto the bus, off of the bus…)

On the return the same thing. No dropping someone off with the bags and then returning the car or lugging all the bags with you on a bus and then through the terminal.

I have to say that the idea at first was daunting. Is it possible for me to fit everything I might need into one bag and a purse? What about keeping an active 9 year old boy busy and in clean clothing? By paring it down to the NEEDS (and a few wants) it was.

After the ease of our last trip. The lack of luggage mishaps or losing time waiting. I have to say we’re now a ONE BAG ALL THE WAY family!

How did we do it?

Cargo Pants, vests, jackets, anything with pockets is a good clothing item for travel. It gives you an “extra hand” for things you might want without having to dig in a bag for it. Or to just hold a water bottle for a minute.

Get a carry-on bag that is SURE to fit in those small overhead compartments and a personal item bag that will fit in the seat in front of you. I don’t know how many people we saw trying to shove bags that were clearly too large for either and some ended up having to “check” their carry on. At a charge no less.

After culling what we WANTED to pack we we got our items down to what we DID pack: Trial sized personal items in a 1 quart size bag (If you don’t have trial sized items already as freebies or have your favorites in reusable containers, just buy them after you get there (or use the hotel’s) and save yourself the screening.), clothing for 2-3 days (you’re wearing one day’s set.), a laptop, and cables/chargers (a few toys, an inflatable pillow and a blanket – I don’t like using airline ones). And a “personal item” bag that had our entertainment (games, books, magazines, MP3 players, etc) and snacks.

Layer your clothing on the bottom of your carry-on, cables and other items in a row on top of that, and put your heavier/bigger clothing in a layer over that.  I put my laptop in a neoprene sleeve on the top of all that. You can pull the whole sleeve out and place it in the bin to be screened.

For a 5 day trip we imposed on family once to wash our laundry. If you’re not visiting family you could find a laundry mat, use the hotel facilities if they have them, or go all the way with sink washing and drying in your hotel. Think clothing that all goes well together and travels well. There are places that sell travel clothing, but unless you travel a lot probably not worth the investment.

I was very surprised that I didn’t miss anything I didn’t bring with us. Anything we might have needed we could get at a local Walgreens or Walmart. (So long as you’re traveling in the USA.) So it really was a lot less stress on the trip having one less thing to worry about and is something we’re going to be doing from now on. I highly suggest giving it a try.

What have you got to lose? Well, certainly not your luggage!

Links:
TSA: What to Know Before you go. Permitted and Prohibited items.
Onebag.com.
Airline Luggage Allowance Policies
.
How to Prevent Lost Luggage and travel tips.
Unclaimed Baggage.

Kill the Messenger

July 7th, 2008

Cases of Kill the Messenger:

I don’t like the message. Ignore the message. Kill the messenger.
I don’t like the messenger. Who cares about the message. Kill the messenger.
I like the message, but don’t like the messenger. Miss all further messages. Kill the messenger.
I like the message and this messenger best. Accept only these messages. Kill all other messengers.
I like this messenger. Who cares what the message is. Kill all other messengers.

Which category do you fall under?

There is of course the option to take the message as delivered. Study the merits of the message yourself. And who cares how tall or short the messenger is. What color clothing he is wearing. His shoe size. His tone of voice or eye color. After all, he is just the messenger…